Relationship, Energy and frequency

Science shows that your brain and your best friend's brain sync together like Wi-Fi.

It's called Neurosynchrony, and it explains why you can finish each other's sentences and why you laugh at the same weird stuff. 

Close friends actually develop similar brainwave patterns. And in brain scans, best friends showed synchronized activity in areas of emotion, decision-making, and even empathy. It shows why you and your best friend are such weirdos together. 

But it also proves that you should choose your circle wisely, because your brain is downloading who they are and who you will become. 

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Did you know that every time you talk bad about someone, your brain subconsciously adopts those bad traits as part of you too? 

The neuroscience behind why and how you can make it better for your brain. So this is actually called spontaneous trait transfer, where every time you describe someone good or bad, your brain tags you with the same traits.

So when you say she's so fake, your brain marks you as fake. When you say he's so inspiring, you take on that energy too, because your brain absorbs the traits you focus on. 

But here's the wild part. Research shows that your friends that you were gossiping to also unconsciously assign those bad traits to you. 

So when you talk badly about someone, you're not just shaping your own identity, you're teaching others to see you that way too. 

There's a saying that whenever you point the finger at someone, there's three fingers pointing back at you, and this is the science that proves it. 

And it makes sense because everything in life is a mirror. How you see the world is how you see yourself. How you treat other people is how you treat yourself.

A quote that I love says that if you want a blessed life, you should be blessing everything around you. Your words don't just describe your world, they rewire your brain and help to create your identity. You literally become what you judge.

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The person that you admire most is a mirror. Carl Jung called it your golden shadow. We all know that the shadow is the parts that we don't like. Jung also warned about the positive side of projection, the gifts that we refuse to own, so we project them onto someone else. 

That charisma that you worship, that courage, that creativity, or that calm, Jung would say, it's yours. You just disowned it. It's showing up on someone else's face so that you can finally see it. 

When we idolize, we are outsourcing our power. When we say they are special and we quietly decide that we are not, Jung's move is to notice the projection and then to reclaim it. 

So I want you to think of the last person that you put on a pedestal. Name the three traits that lit you up. Now flip that sentence. I admire X. Change that to, I am capable of X. That discomfort that you feel, that's the shadow turning gold. 

Now Jung didn't make this point so that we would stop admiring people. It was so that we would stop abandoning ourselves. Your heroes are road signs. Not destinations. Follow them back to the part of you that is waiting to be lived.

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You attract what you desire by liking your own energy

The most magnetic thing on earth is liking your own energy. You ever see someone walk into a room and they're not the richest, not the hottest, but they feel untouchable? That's not confidence. That's self-approval. 

That's what it looks like when you genuinely like who you are and the world can't help but mirror it. If you want to get to this level, follow these steps.

First, audit your self-talk. If your inner voice talked to someone you love the way it talks to you, you'd cut it off. Fix the tone. You're listening to it all day. 

Two, keep the promises you make to yourself. Self-trust is the root of self-respect. 

Step three, curate your inputs. The content you consume, the music you loop, the people you allow around your piece. It all reflects back into your body. 

Step four, move like someone worth protecting. Not an ego, an awareness. Because when you like your own energy, you stop chasing it and you start attracting it. 

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