Some people hurt you to escape their pain

Why people are mean and rude all the time. 

When someone feels powerless in their own life, like they feel invisible, insecure, ignored, or just not good enough, judging someone else gives them a small moment where they feel like they're better than you. 

Because most people who are mean aren't happy with their own life. They're not busy enjoying their day or focused on their own goals, they're people who feel bad inside. 

And when someone feels empty, like they don't get enough attention, or maybe they feel left out or just not good enough, they try to feel better by putting someone else down. 

That distracts them from how bad they feel about themselves. And the crazy part is, science actually proves it. When someone puts another person down, it activates the part of their brain that makes them feel good. And this only happens in people who already feel bad about themselves and carry a lot of shame. 

And that's why it becomes such a habit for them. Because for a few seconds they actually feel like they're better than you. That their life is amazing. The pain they have inside just kind of goes away for a little bit. So of course they keep doing it again and again. 

So now when someone intentionally tries to make you feel bad, learn not to let it get to your heart and dont take it very personally. 

But now it's like, they just don't know how to feel good without putting someone else down. That's kind of sad. And I'd rather feel sad for someone than feel sad for myself. And stop feeling bad for yourself because of other people. Then you finally will starting to feel better.

If they try to humble you, they already see you as above them. Some people liked you better when you were struggling. Sit with that. 

If your success makes the people around you go quiet, keep going. They don't just want to see you lose, they want to be the reason you do. 

Being hated is the cost of being visible. Pay it happily. Being too much is only a problem for the people that are never enough. 

Your wins will be extremely triggering for certain people because they expected you to fail. And really wanted you to. 

They did not outgrow you, they just couldn't keep up. 

When people are upset and say you've changed, or I miss the older version of you, they just missed the version of you that they could manipulate and that they had the power of. 

Their support isn't real if it disappears when you win. 

It must be exhausting trying to be me but without the talent. 

You become the villain when you're done being the victim. 

People will copy and try to steal what they envy, it's just really weird when they act like they don't. 

When people are talking behind your back, just remember they're behind you. 

If you weren't a threat, they wouldn't be so obsessed with you. 

When people can't keep up, they just criticize because it's easier to do that than to actually get up off their ass and go do something. 

The more you care about yourself, the more you bother people who don't. 

Some people really only stick around to have front row seats to see you fail.